Other times, rare times, it was important to set firm boundaries. If someone's actions hurt me or others, then I needed to say so. If someone's actions were dangerous or foolhardy then I needed to say that was wrong. If someone was doing something which I felt was totally abhorrent, I could not just sit back and compromise, I needed to speak up. When faced with conflicts in life, sometimes we need to choose between compromise and division, but in general compromise is best.